According to a University of Chicago study, "hi" is the best opening line there is, followed by "how do you like the band?" (but only if a band is, in fact, playing). All the cutsie lines you've heard--"Is heaven missing a couple of angels? 'Cause I can see them bouncing around inside your blouse,"--don't work any better, and usually work quite a bit worse. Even if the cutsie line does work, you are still left with the same basic problem--"there's a human being in front of me, what do I say?" "Hi" works the best at getting you to that point.
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But what if the woman you want to say "hi" to isn't anywhere near you, and you'd have to go up to her. What do you do then?
Try the "goodbye introduction." This is a cousin of the "goodbye compliment,".
Imagine you are at the gym, and you see a woman who is really attractive to you. But she's busy lifting weights, and it seems like your gym is not such a friendly place, anyway. The opportunity is this: time your leaving the gym for when she is between sets, or stretching. Then on your way out, introduce yourself like this (smile while you do it!):
"Hi, I'm just leaving, but before I do, I really wanted to introduce myself to the woman who has such wonderful form. My name is David." She says something back, like "Oh hi, my name is Tracy," then you say something like "I hope to see you here again." Then you leave.
This creates an opening for you to talk to her next time you see her.
"Hi Tracy, how are you?" It also gives you a way of interacting with her for the first time without there being much risk--since you tell her up front you are leaving, she's less likely to be afraid of you wasting lots of her time--but you still show your romantic interest, making it harder for her to think of you as "just a friend."
It even builds your esteem, and teaches your nervous system that you can actually survive talking to beautiful women, which makes it more likely you'll do it again. In time this can even help you develop the confidence to askI would suggest you learn up more tips and tricks from Ron Louis and David Copeland, dating coaches and authors of the best-selling "How to Succeed with Women" and creators of the tape series course, "The Mastery Program: Your Step-by-Step Course in Finding, Meeting, Dating and Seducing the Women of Your Dreams" and "Overcoming the Nice Guy Syndrome: How to Stop Being Shy without Becoming a Jerk."
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